A LESSON TO LIVE WITH...

                                                  I’m gonna go psychodynamic with you…
                                                  After I go completely literal, but
First I’m gonna begin a bit mystical….(or ironical…)

The court date of  "Limpo" vs. Noble was scheduled for 4/11, which is also Spring Break-so I offered to bring our children up for a visit with their dad. (ironic right there if you ask me, because of their dads attorney suing me-I am compelled to return, thus my divorce drama continues!)

The court date changed, "LIMPO" vs. NOBLE is now set for 4/23. The irony with that, is, that it is also my birthday. Yes, I admit at my age birthdays are not what they used to be, but I can certainly think of many other things to do or places to be rather than facing off with "Limpo"! But then again I think, wow, what better possible Birthday gift to ME than being present when "Limpo"
has his a** handed to him!
         So where’s the mysticism I promised- it’s so weird-I have experienced numerous ironic, beyond coincidental, down right ominous happenings connecting milestone dates and events within the context of my Divorce Drama. To quickly name just a few, I signed up for our divorce on 2/5 (2009),  in 2011 I bought my new car, a 2005 on 2/5, it also happens to be a Mazda, which is what my first (real) car was in 1987. Our divorce was final on 12/30 (2009), and Leoni filed his first post-divorce motion on behalf of my ex on 12/30 (2010). We had mediation on 5/3 (2011), and we married on 5/3 (2003). On 12/26 (2010) Karma (then age 5) was thrown by my ex, and on 12/26 (2012) my ex who was represented by the Law Office of  "Money Sucking Limpo", was handed his a** as we returned to court for his noncompliance. That was the last I faced off with "Limpo". Sadly, it was just the last of 2012.

Coincidentally, while my ex husband is no longer being represented by “MONEY SUCKING LIMPO”, my ex has communicated with me in an appropriate and respectful manner. He has followed the judges orders, and he has made all the required payments. We even managed to productively solidify visitation arrangements, as complicated as it was --but with cooperation and without contention. (I have written before in this blog, that my ex has failed to comply with almost all of the judges orders, almost the entire time I have lived in So.Cal. At one point the behavior of my ex was so disturbing I sought a restraining order (April, 2011) to prevent him from further harassment and verbal abuse-- both my ex and  "Limpo" simply failed to communicate to resolve many issues choosing instead to litigate).

Today, the first appearance as my divorce drama continues is set for 4/23/13, and I will turn 43 on 4/23/13. I wonder, are the dates of these events simply random or are they meaningful. I know in the words of Carl Jung, "The least of things with a meaning is worth more in life than the greatest of things without it"     --CJ

My next blog will take you completely literal as I share a brief message on Personality Disorders, according to the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders). The DSM is the cook-book of diagnosis’ for mental health professionals. Its similar to the Chilton manual for the mechanic or the penal code for the law enforcement officer. Personally I prefer what the founder of Reality Therapy, William Glasser  calls it -- “the BIG BOOK of Unhappiness”.    

Stay tuned*