Being Victimized by the chronic "victim"

My Blog. My first "official" Blog! I write, I write a lot. I think even more. I think about writing, often.  I have a list of awesome book titles waiting to be put to work. I have several pieces "in process".  One piece is on divorcing parents- and what not to do--- (that is not the title i don't want to share the real title right yet!)-- i began working on this piece while providing co parenting mediation for highly stressed individuals, then as the universe works in its mysteriously ironic ways i was interrupted with the co-parenting issues and the divorce of my own. 

My Divorce Drama began in 2009,  or more accurately put my divorce was filed for in 2009, the drama was what held my marriage together for far too long. Does that make sense? Well, its true. And sadly there are many others  who are 'stuck' in this drama filled tunnel of what they refer to as life. But i will blog more about that tunnel, my dramatic marriage and feelings of stuckness later on...that will be near the end of this tale of My Divorce Drama...

You see, one would think you divorce, settle the legal issues of custody, and property distribution etc. and with some time the emotions that wreck havoc during this time period will settle...and as you grieve the loss you soon can accept the failure and your new reality and at that point continue on with your life, as you would like. Often this is the case and many times the divorced parents are in fact better parents and even friends after the divorce dust has settled and their living their lives their way. Sometimes, however, there is a parent or both parents who by their nature have organic impairments or other pathology present which impedes if not prevents their ability to accept and continue on with their life.  I consider this psychological dysfunction to be a severe  mental dis-ease. This can be something genetic or it can be the result of external factors; for instance addiction or  PTSD.  Nonetheless it is Dysfunctional. As in Divorce Drama Dysfunction...

My blog- When divorce is not enough, move to So.Ca may sound like an escape or a potion to avoid circumstances. It is not. It is a story of freedom..and triumph....once the Divorce Drama ends...(the optimist that i am i am intending it shall end)

It is the sharing of circumstances and experiences that have unfolded during my Divorce Drama. I am going to start with the present and go back..like a good story does.... I hope this drama will end in 2012....*if my X would replace his attonery with a competent one who is not a drama king bully himself I think the drama could cease. Sadly, i have contempt towards my x husbands attorney, for reasons you will discover if you continue the read. As for my x husband, i feel sorry for him. Like a chronic victim does. He's placed himself in such a position that I feel (and those closest to me) feel that he is being exploited and manipulated by his attorney, yet he is held together by denial so I pity him....which is what we do with chronic victims we feel sorry for them. Once we say "I feel sorry for him/her..." its too late.. the chronic victim has caught us in their web of deceitful dysfunction which will only result in Drama, and should you marry him/her-hopefully your relationship with a chronic victim will end.... even if its sure to end in a Divorce Drama.... and a dramatic future if there are children involved (and probably even if there are no children), no matter, no worries  a Divorce Drama still = freedom and a triumph for the one whose been victimized by the chronic victim.