Really--Who Cares?!Really!

In February while I was in the ICU with our daughter (age 11 with very many special needs) during her recovery from a very lengthy back operation, I was served with what I wish I could say was the last time of service from DDA and my x.  But its not, I think I have been served 2 if not 3 more times since February of 2012-- I have lost track. I can go on my FB account and see what I posted, since that tends to be my instant dumping ground for  the legal actions and unbelievable x husband dramatics. -- I will blog more, later, to back that claim up, but for now I’m simply posting the review I wrote on Yelp.  I was so disgusted that DDA would serve me with contempt charges during this very sensitive time, and also that the contempt matters (pleadings) were so messy and illogical it was just confusing! --- As I sat bedside our daughter I googled the name of DDA of Petaluma, to see what the information highway had on him (is it still called the information highway?) - DDA came up on Yelp! I was like AH! COOL!!!  Sadly there were no reviews though! Ah ha Moment!!!  you see I NEVER would have thought to yelp him-but since he was already on there a light bulb went on! --and so--in February I wrote this review, I  was very careful to only speak the truth etc. and I am surprised that DDA has not followed up with any legal action-as of yet- in regards to my poor review of  DDA, Attorney at Law .--- I wondered if he even read it, or if my x even knew about it, or read it.  I fantasized  about sending it to DDA himself to ensure he read it-- not that there's anything too new in it that I have not already verbalized to him, in person (usually in the courtroom halls of hell and sometime's in front of the honorable judge before us). I thought about sending it to him, them. And thought against it- since that would be drama producing. The last thing I want to do is produce the drama when it needn't be there.  I also thought it was kind of like manufacturing karma. And that’s just not right. I do what I do for myself and for the sake of my children. All I can do is do the best I can with the best of intentions that is doing the right thing when I can for the right reasons period.

   One court hearing this year, I do not recall which one, oh wait yes it was the contempt-- the bogus contempt matter that DDA has influenced my X to file and fund for their  ego's sake---(and DDA bank account)... at this hearing I’m before the judge in the contempt matter, first appearance, fortunately for me (or unfortunately since it is yet to be determined/tried) Contempt is a quasi criminal matter, therefore I am entitled to legal representation if I am unable to afford so on my own, at the expense of the county (thanks Sonoma County! feels kinda good getting some return for my 40 years of residency there!)---I requested legal counsel be appointed to me, as I can not afford an attorney myself.. should he (the judge) find there is a triable issue before him. I don’t think Judge Boyd, (who coincidentally I had for Contracts while I was experiencing a short lived law school education), read the matter much-DDA prevailed to make legal contemptible sense out of pure nonsense! -In any event, the matter is due to be heard soon, very soon and I have a criminal defense attorney to represent me. So at least the verbal challenge of legalities can be exchanged between equally qualified and equally emotionally removed parties. –

Anyhow, I never did e mail the yelp review to DDA or my X. To this day I do not know if my X is aware of it (nor do I care). I do know that DDA is aware of it though.  For the first time EVER DDA approaches me in the hallway of hell, after the judge ordered an attorney to represent me, and he asked me what was my "proposal" I was dumbfounded! what the hell was he talking about!! my proposal?? Pay what is owed to me and drop all your nonsense and pay as ordered moving forward and all will be fine-is what I was thinking. I looked at him like he was crazy! MY PROPOSAL!!  He is the one nailing me to the courtroom wall what the hell does he want? (a question I have asked both he and the X several times, for which I have not received an answer) And HE is the one that is WILLFULLY not following a court order!! ---anyway I managed to think of something that would be acceptable to me so DDA can pass it on to my x. DDA then says he will call me.....(this whole time I failed to remember that I now had legal representation and DDA should not have bothered speaking to me at all!! EXCEPT-----in the middle of DDA's attempt to discuss propositions with me, he paused and asked me "what’s with this yelp review? What’s that about?", and I must admit, though I was intensely engaged  in dialogue with him, while thinking about the legal maze of what’s ahead for me and my heart rate was sky high, when I saw his sorry, pathetic, frustrated face stare at me awkwardly asking about the yelp review, for an instant I felt satisfied! My heart rate quickly decreased as I  realized he had read it, he is aware of it. This was very satisfying for me. I was thrown off by this inappropriate question which again, my x is paying for this discussion and it has nothing to do with my x himself. I quickly responded by telling him to "read it. Google it and read it yourself!" that was the end of that...... the review stayed on for quite sometime...(I think) I know when I posted other reviews it was still on, but then last month it came to my attention that it was removed (?) oh bizarre! why I wondered? how the hell did DDA manage that? I was very careful to not violate the TOS etc. as well as break other laws etc. Whatever, who cares. I got my rush off of it. Done deal. -- so I thought. Nope that wasn’t enough for me. What I don’t understand is how one man who is simply evil and a blatant "Wrong doer" goes about continuing to be evil and practice wrongful actions etc. and "get away with it".  Truth is I don’t know what he’s getting away with. I would think he is as miserable as I think my x is given his (and his) behavior etc. and there must be some form of self medicating going on cuz how else could you live with yourself, totally oblivious to the erroneous ways of your thinking / actions. Other than of course by being soul-less... anyway I wasn’t over it- so I simply cut and pasted it and re-posted!  I almost felt as good as the first time I posted! but now I had notice that its likely to be removed again, and you know what? who cares...who cares really. because if you are on yelp looking for an attorney that’s already a bad situation to be in! --- So, now, in my attempts to win an I pad, I posted another review for our kids awesome dentist office--and I noticed my review of DDA was once again removed.  I took a big sigh, because really, who cares?, well I guess I do, because once again  I cut and pasted and re-posted! -- but this time, for real if it is removed, or should I say when its removed, I wont repost. Or at least not right away, because really who cares?  Really. Oh well--- oh and also because I have posted it on my blog!—(because I care!)

**edited YELP review since removed by YELP at the request/demand of DDA.

7/2/2012

 Dads Divorce Attorney (DDA) was referred by his father Dr.Leoni. Dr.Leoni was the medical doctor for my in laws.  The doctor dad and son lawyer both had office in the same building in Petaluma. According to my x husband, DDA was hired by his parents to assist them in protecting the future of their  financial assets and safeguarding the family estate.
When my husband and I separated DDA was retained for representation.  DDA was then known as  "the family attorney".  I suggested to my x husband  that he seek  someone who specializes in family law, rather than a general practitioner.   A general practitioner means you can practice in a variety  of law areas. It seems to me it would be nearly impossible to be up to date in both law and procedure in every aspect of the law in general.  Currently DDA's website states "Practice Areas:  DUI Defense*Personal Injury*Criminal Law*Wills*Trusts*Business Law*Workers Comp*Family Law ".  If I am going to see a practitioner for heart problems, I would want to see a cardiologist,  someone who practices that specialty, not a general practitioner.    No divorce is easy and without emotions even the most amicable  one. A divorce however, should be treated by someone who specializes in that area to hopefully avoid undo harm and expenses as much as possible. I retained a very reputable, honest and professional attorney named Thomas Coombs (of Santa Rosa), who was a member of the IACP, (Collaborative Divorce Procedure). My attorney was unable to work in a collaborative manner with DDA.
DDA's website states **"I represent clients in many Bay Area Courts. Whether you live in Petaluma, Novato, Santa Rosa, Cotati, San Rafael, Ronhert Park, Penngrove, Windsor, Novato, San Rafael, Sebastapol or Forestville or any other area in the Bay Area I would like to discuss your case.", so he practices to a large part of the Nor Cal area  meaning that's a lot to know-of rules of the court, courtroom etc.
I would not recommend DDA for a family law matter.  During the initial phase of our divorce he failed to provide information to my x husband (period) and other information in a timely manner and made a few other errors or as my attorney called them "oversights". (I called it stupidity). Throughout that whole process I regularly suggested to my x he retain a competent family law attorney (I think each parent should have competent and responsible representation to avoid any exploitation and  manipulation).
I have been divorced since 2009 DDA is still retained by my x husband for our family law issues.  DDA has directed my x to not pay some of the court ordered child support costs until I take him back to court, (as I was told by my x).  DDA has had me served three times in  just the past 6 months (with what I consider NONSENSE motions), prior to this the other time of service was also senseless.   The wording DDA uses in his communication (the few letters *I have received) is unprofessional in my opinion. They have spelling /grammar errors and/or scribbles on the pages. The actual context itself doesn't make much sense to me- even the mediator who saw us in 2010  was "unclear" as to the motion that DDA had made on my x husbands behalf (after our divorce was final).  It seems DDA refuses to communicate with me other than in a courtroom  (as does my x).  I have made attempts to communicate with DDA in an appropriate and professional manner and he has hung up on me several times, he has raised his voice at me even more times.  It seems DDA's style is attack and intimidate. It is clear to me that DDA has little (if any) interest or concern for the welfare of our three children.   It has been my experience and in my opinion DDA has and continues to do my x husband, our three children and  their grandmother an injustice. I believe DDA is responsible for continuing  my Divorce Drama.

* I do not know what the attorneys who have represented me have received from DDA.
** This is a direct passage from his website, I did not error in documenting it here.  I believe this type of  'oversight' is representative of  DDA's work, given my experience with him.

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